My wife and I have 3 children, ages 11, 7 and 3. Going from 2 children to 3 children hasn’t been the easiest thing.
Here’s a little hack for three children families:
One of us takes one of the children out for an activity (1 adult + 1 child) and the other parent takes the remaining two of them (1 adult + 2 children) and we go do things separately.
One of us and one of the children get 1-on-1 time together, which is something we missed when we went from 2 children to 3 children.
The other fun thing about doing this is every pairing of the children has a unique chemistry — for example, our middle child and our youngest child interact in a very particular way when it’s just the two of them. And the youngest and oldest have their own chemistry. And the oldest and the middle child have their own equation too.
Shonali and I always come back from these outings having learned new things about our children.
Of course, we do things altogether too– all the time– but this is always a refreshing change to the rhythm of all the relationships.